Should we "invest" in people like stock markets ?

Hello little darling,

How's my little princess doing tonight? Daddy's life is currently at a standstill. He doesn't know where to go, what to do. But earlier, it was kind of very tumultuous and confusing. Now, it is more peaceful. Nothing has changed on the outside but inside its quiet and calm. I just watch books and movies all day. Leaves me with a lot of time to spare. I had this one thought creeping up my mind.

Should we spend our time and energy on people like stock markets?

There are quite a few similarities and also dissimilarities between people and stocks. Let's put the similarities first.

1. People just like stocks are quite unreliable. Human mood and mind are subject to some real quick changes not unlike the stock market.
2. Everybody wants to get associated with the uprising hotshot people or stocks. Nobody cares when it is falling or failing. 
3. You have limited time/energy or money, so we should choose wisely. Great investments can yield great returns and vice versa.
4. You have different types of friends, just like different kinds of stocks in different sectors. You have work friends, college friends, school friends, neighbour friends. 

Now, for the dissimilarities. 

1.  Investing in stocks in optional. But almost everyone needs friends to live.
2.  Emotional losses are more significant than monetary ones.

You spend your time and energy on a person, you enjoy the companionship. You expect warmth and support in return. Similarly, you invest in stocks and expect a return. In financial markets, there's a very common saying. 

Don't put all your eggs in one basket.

That is, invest in many stocks to minimize the risk of loss. In case of people, however, the advice is completely opposite.

Have a few close friends. That's all we need. 

But, what if it is better to invest a little time and energy in quite a lot of friends, just like the stock markets. Investing in one person has huge rewards, but if the person leaves, it has a disastrous aftermath. But continued investment in one person minimizes the chance of risk to some extent. More on this later.

Bye for now, sweetheart.

Yours always,
Dad

 

Am I losing myself ?

Hello baby,

There's just so much daddy wants to talk to you about. So many thoughts swirling in his head and crashing like waves against rocks. I think daddy is losing himself, he is becoming something who he isn't. Sometimes, you sit up and wonder whether you are the same person after a traumatic incident. It may not be trauma in the eyes of the world, but for you it is. It's like a storm which just refuses to die down. It may be you lost your job or your house or a person very close to you.

Today is Navami, I shouted on a close friend pretty terribly. I felt so terrible, so awful. I see all these couples lovey-dovey in each other's arms. 4 years ago, your daddy was also like that. But then, nevermind. I think it hurt me so badly in the subconscious that I let it out by shouting terribly on her. Everybody wants to see me like I was- jolly, cheerful and cracking jokes all the time. But, I just cannot be that person anymore. I still retain glimpses of it, but somehow a different me just creeps in. I am not the same person anymore. 

I don't know if you are having the same problems right now, but I think it is important to be certain and quite sure of the kind of person you are. Self-knowledge is pretty important. What you like, or don't like. The kind of person you are, change that knowingly only for the better. Circumstances do change people, but I think after some time, they get back to what they were in the first place. I hope something of that sort happens to you too and you find yourself again, much stronger, much better and most importantly much happier.

Yours lovingly,
Daddy